Most people walk with their heads down, either looking at their phones or avoiding human interaction. This occurs without second thought or hesitation. The thought of the obligated small talk that you would partake in seems much more troublesome than ignoring the person walking by you. Why is that? It might be because you’ve had a bad day and the last thing you want to do is talk about someone else’s children and their great accomplishments. Or it might be because you recognize the person but have no clue what their name is. Whatever the reason is, it’s most likely extremely valid. Small talk is the most annoying and, in my opinion, an unnecessary aspect of language.
Personally, I love talking to people and getting to know them and this starts with some good old small talk. The fact that you have to start with this horrendous activity to get to know someone, antagonizes me. If I had the power, I would outlaw small talk. Purely because it doesn’t accomplish anything. No one in the history of the world has ever enjoyed talking about the weather. I’d only deem it acceptable if the person you were engaging in was a meteorologist.
When I talk to someone new I really want to know what things make them smile. Everyone has at least one person or thing that makes them smile just by just talking about it. That’s what I wanna talk about. That conversation is going to tell me more about the person than their opinion on the latest BBC article.
On the other hand sometimes(only very few times), small talk is a nice reliability. If you’ve exhausted a few topics to no end, world news and this rainy summer we’ve been having is a lovely cushion. Although, here’s another situation that stepping outside of your comfort zone is needed. Just because you feel comfortable doesn’t mean its the right choice. I must have said a thousand times, “People are afraid of change”. This is a minor example of change, but starting small is the perfect way to start.
By eliminating small talk you only talk about the most crucial points of conversation. This also means a shorter conversation which saves time in the long run! Small talk also feels extremely impersonal. You could have the same conversation with your hairdresser and an old friend you run into on the street. Although, we all think it’s crucial. It’s not! There’s no one telling us we have to ask about the opposite person’s kids within the first thirty seconds. And there’s certainly no one commanding us to nod along after they list off their offsprings accomplishments. But we feel undeniably obligated to do so.
If you have something to say to someone, skip to the point and say it! Don’t dance around the topic and call it good when you did nothing but dawdle in the conversation.